I’m a Zambian living in South Africa but am currently in Zambia on vacation. I have an issue at hand, here we go;
Before I left for SA I had a girlfriend we dated for over 2yrs, I must admit that in these 2 years we engaged in some careless sexual behaviour together. Late last year around October, I went back to SA were I developed some strange illness inside me, I went to the hospital and got medication, it reduced but once again the same illness came back. The doctor at the hospital suggested that we do some blood tests, well, we did some blood tests but unfortunately I was diagnosed with H.I.V.
I was shocked and depressed somehow but I had to cope with my situation. Three months ago, I came to Zambia for a funeral in Kasama and during this period I managed to see my girlfriend, she was living in Lusaka. I told her about my situation but she said she was not bothered with it. I don’t know maybe she thought I was joking. As human, we were almost attached together and during this period we slept close to 17 times.
I went back to SA unfortunately I found that the company I was working for was closed. I came back to Zambia to look for employment, fortunately one company employed me but I only worked for 2 months and my contract was terminated. Luckily, in SA another company offered me a job as an IT Technician(that’s were am currently working).
Now the real issue is here;
Last month, my beloved girlfriend sent me an email that she was now married. I thought she was kidding but her cousin who new me confirmed that it was true. She changed numbers and her facebook user names. I had to face the truth and move on with my life. Just yesterday, I don’t know what came in my mind, I decided to look for her on facebook,i traced her, indeed she was married. The guy who married her was my friend when I was at Evelyn Hone in 2013. We used to play soccer together with the same man.
In short, we were friends in campus. Now, should I tell my friend that I dated her wife and we broke up because of my H.I.V condition or may be I should just shut my mouth. He is my friend on facebook too and it bothers me a lot coz on his timeline he complains a lot about not feeling well oftenly. As for me, I accepted and currently on medication.
As a Christian, I still remember the verse which says; “What God has joined together, let no man put asunder”. I fear that if tell him he will divorce his wife but again it bothers me a lot seeing a friend falling into a pit.
Note: Am not saying he’s H.I.V positive too, neither am I saying my ex-girlfriend is H.I.V positive either, am not a doctor but the risk is high considering how long we dated.
Let me hear from you mwebantu.